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Meet Your Coach Shelby Devlin
Say hello to Shelby Devlin, your guide through the fascinating world of intimacy. Shelby isn’t just any coach - she’s a certified Somatica coach with a master’s degree in sexuality studies, bringing both academic knowledge and real-world expertise to the table.
She’s trained under some of the Bay Area’s and New York City’s top professional Doms, mastering the art and science of rope play, bondage, impact play, breath play, Dominance and submission, and a variety of intriguing fetishes that keep things exciting. Shelby’s experience means she understands both the technical skills and the emotional nuances involved.
Curious to dive deeper and unlock the secrets Shelby shares? Check out Mysteries of Love Academy’s online courses, where Shelby’s lessons transform shy beginners into confident explorers of personal desire. There’s no better place to learn about love’s mysteries with a coach who’s been there, done that, and taught it all with heart and humor.
Ready to uncover new layers of pleasure and connection? Shelby’s here to lead the way, blending knowledge, experience, and a touch of fun into every session.
Learn more about Shelby and start your adventure today.
ABOUT SADE
SADE isn’t just another organization - it’s a heartfelt, not-for-profit initiative dedicated to kink and BDSM education. We’re all about creating a space where everyone feels welcomed, safe, and respected, no matter where you are on your kink journey. Consent isn’t just a buzzword here; it’s the foundation of everything we do.
Every instructor at SADE is carefully chosen, ensuring they bring rock-solid credibility and high ethical standards. We want you to learn from the best, with confidence and peace of mind.
But it doesn’t stop there. SADE is deeply connected to the wider community, which is why we proudly donate a portion of our proceeds to charity. Learning with us means you’re supporting more than just yourself - you’re contributing to a better, more inclusive world.
If you’re hungry for deeper knowledge about intimacy, relationships, and the beautiful complexities of love and desire, don’t miss the online courses at Mysteries of Love Academy. It’s a perfect complement to what we offer at SADE, giving you a well-rounded, enriching experience in adult education.
Hello! Welcome to D/s Playground
I’m genuinely excited that you’ve found your way here. This course isn't just pulled out of thin air. It’s the result of years digging deep into the world of dominant and submissive dynamics - reading every book, attending podcasts and conferences, coaching people through their own journeys, and yes, running plenty of real-life experiments. We’ve done the homework so you don’t have to.
If you don’t know me yet, let me introduce myself properly. I’m Sinclair. Since 2006, I’ve been writing about queer kink, gender, and relationships at sugarbutch.net. Throughout my journey, I’ve lived many kinds of authority exchange relationships - from casual playdates to full-on 24/7 live-in arrangements. It’s been a wild, enlightening ride, and I’m here to share all the lessons with you.
You're about to dive into a treasure trove of resources in D/s Playground. And if you want to go even deeper, check out Mysteries of Love Academy - the online courses that bring intimacy education to a whole new level. Ready to explore, learn, and maybe even challenge yourself? Let’s get started!
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Getting your KinkOn...
BDSM - that intriguing world of Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism - is stepping out of the shadows and into the spotlight. More and more people are embracing its complexity and excitement, weaving it into their lives just as naturally as any other hobby or passion. Whether you’re curious about exploring yourself or are eager to build a deeper connection with your partner, BDSM offers experiences ranging from a one-time adventure to a full-on lifestyle.
If you’re thinking about dipping your toes into BDSM or just want to add a little extra spark behind closed doors, you’re in the right place. But here’s the catch: BDSM is vast. It’s not just one thing. With so many facets and nuances, knowing where to begin can feel like trying to solve a Rubik’s cube blindfolded. Sure, you can read all the blogs, articles, and forums out there, but nothing compares to hands-on learning with real guidance.
That’s exactly why this introductory course exists. Designed to arm you with all the essentials, it’s a full day packed with theory, practical insights, and a taste of skills that will empower you to enjoy BDSM safely, ethically, and with loads of fun. For those who want to dive even deeper, the Mysteries of Love Academy offers a whole realm of online courses that expand on these foundations, mixing knowledge with a dash of humor and a lot of real talk. Get ready to unlock a new world of intimate possibilities.
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$160.00
Presented by: Luna Matatas
4 CE Hours
Recorded workshop available via video on demand
AASECT Category: Human Sexuality Education, Section F
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Course Description
BDSM is no longer fringe in mental health circles, but stigma still shadows kinksters both inside and outside their communities. This workshop dives into how this stigma sneaks in and what it truly costs individuals and their circles. Expect eye-opening insights and a reality check on the myths we carry.
You’ll uncover how stigma creeps in on personal, institutional, and systemic levels - through kink communities, intimate relationships, and cultural narratives around BDSM. We’ll also unpack how power dynamics within the community decide who’s in, who’s out, and whose kink counts as valid or not.
- Is fetishization always a bad word?
- Should some BDSM play get the censorship boot?
- Pain versus injury - what's the real difference in kink?
You’ll leave with practical tools to recognize your own biases and approach clients with more empathy and understanding - and maybe even shift your own perspective on pleasure and power along the way.
Learning Objectives
By the end of this course, you’ll be able to:
- Spot the many faces of BDSM stigmatization
- Arm yourself with strategies to handle shame linked to kink
- Name at least two real harms caused by stigma
- Discuss how to bust biases around BDSM in yourself and others
- List the key factors feeding the stigma machine
- Begin peeling back your own biases with two effective methods
- Share two communication and safety tools to empower BDSM practitioners
Activity Schedule
1 Hour: Understanding BDSM and Stigmatization
1 Hour: Impact and Influence of BDSM Stigmatization
1 Hour: Approaches for Challenging Bias in BDSM
1 Hour: Redefining BDSM: Tools for Self-Discovery, Pleasure and Empowerment
Presenter Bio
Luna Matatas is a sex and pleasure educator with over 15 years of experience turning awkward bedroom whispers into confident conversations. She champions body positivity, shame-free pleasure, and unapologetic self-love both in and out of the bedroom. Her workshops cover everything from BDSM and threesomes to sexual confidence, guiding folks to get curious about their desires and compassionate about their partners' vulnerabilities.
Luna also created the cheeky brands Peg the Patriarchy and Meditate Medicate Masturbate, mixing sex-positivity with feminist flair. If you want to discover how to embrace desire without guilt, Luna’s courses - including the online offerings at Mysteries of Love Academy - are your fast track to a more empowered love life.
Dive Into the World of BDSM: What You’ll Master in This Class
Get ready to unlock the secrets of dominance, submission, and all things BDSM with confidence and care. This class isn’t just about theory - it's designed to guide you step-by-step through preparing clients to safely and joyfully explore their deepest desires, from fetishes to power dynamics, ensuring every session is as thrilling as it is responsible.
Imagine understanding not only the fundamentals of BDSM but also how to create a sacred space where reality blends with fantasy without crossing dangerous lines. You’ll learn to build a “scene container” that sets clear time frames and energetic boundaries, protecting everyone involved while diving into the delicious unknown.
Here’s What You’ll Get Your Hands on:
- Foundations of BDSM like dominance and submission (D/s), negotiation techniques, and impact play with attention to safety and consent.
- How to nurture your own wellbeing and honor your limits while supporting clients in intimate, often intense emotional spaces.
- Powerful Somatica tools tailored to help clients explore their desires deeply and authentically, boosting appreciation for their unique kink journeys.
- Guidance on addressing common kinks, navigating challenges, and overcoming obstacles with empathy and skill.
- Bondage essentials including safe usage of restraints, ropes, and impact toys, plus clear communication protocols to keep trust intact.
- Smart marketing tactics to brand yourself as a trustworthy BDSM-savvy coach - without falling into the traps of shameful language, dull calls to action, or over-the-top promises.
By the end of this course, you won’t just walk away with practical skills. You’ll gain a richer understanding of the psychology behind shadow desires - those secret corners of passion and pleasure we’re sometimes too shy to admit even to ourselves. And here’s a little twist: you’ll be encouraged to explore your own kinks and fetishes along the way. Why? Because authenticity is the best teacher, and when you own your story, your clients will feel safe to own theirs.
If you’re curious about diving deeper into this kinky, fascinating world, the "Mysteries of Love Academy" offers online courses that perfectly complement this journey. They blend education with humor, real talk, and a sprinkle of charm - making sure every step you take into intimacy coaching feels both safe and exciting.
